So while watching MTV last night and going through my own emotional battle, Hustle & Flow was playing, now in the movie he says "I got love for you" and that reminded me of so the many times men have said that to me, and what it might actually mean.
In turn "I got nothing but love for you" and things to that nature just means I'm going to say what you want to hear for now, and being as they didn't say they love you, at a later time that can be flipped on you. In a later convo you'll say i thought you loved me, then they'll say "No, I said i have nothing but love for you".. whats the difference? smh the difference is the language between men and women, they say one thing which translate into something else in women talk.
Another one would be, "I don't even speak to my own mother everyday", Now when anyone flies the coop and leaves mama bird, it comes with the territory as an adult not to speak to mommy everyday. What men don't get is its not that you didn't call or speak for the day its the fact that we all know if he wants to do something he will do it. No matter what if he wants to go to the store and big a jumbo sized bag of chips he'll take time out of his day and do so. It is the point that you didn't want nor care to Call or get in touch with you.
How about "I'm just not ready to be in a relationship", this one is another mix up do t
o the language barrier, Men sometimes really just aren't into being with one person sometimes, and sometimes its just they're way of saying they don't want to be tied down. Now the reason we get mixed up is because women feel as though once again if you want to do something you will do it. If a man is totally consumed by the pain of a previous breakup, (if he is in fact a real man!), he will do anything in his power to have this person that they feel can make they're life better. Its like if i was really worth it you would be with me, but if I'm not what you want and not making you feel a certain way then I'm just another woman in your life no more or less important than another female you know.
"Why do we have to put a label on it, why cant we just leave it as it is?" HA! Screw you all who say that. To men its just a label supposedly, but if ipso facto that is
true then in return why is it that we cant just put the label on it?.. i mean its not a big deal right, its not important to you?..so why not do it to please us. It's bull that's why, really it is important to him, because when questioned by a family member of friends they will have to give you a title and you can have one of two titles, Friend or Girlfriend.
This brings me to my next point remember a song call "Shawty" by Plies, ladies i cant help you with this one, shawty is a word that sounds like girlfriend but isn't quite considered so. If your someones shawty, there's a chance he's cheating, well cheating in our world, normal in his.
Titles you DO want to be associated with (Girlfriends, Girl, Wifey, Mrs,)
Titles you DON'T want to be associated with (My Bitch, Shawty, Chick, Boo)
Catchalater!
